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15 September 2011
Club XS Being Cool 101
Compulsory reading for all single men in order to be eligible for entry to club XS and for men who do not wish to become single
Webbed note;
If at any stage you find the following offensive, irrelevant or are just to god dammed ignorant to care then do not come to my club. If you looking for an easy lay then be care full for you could get laid out instead, you may even be better served going to a brothel, another swingers club, or a singles bar instead.
But if you are looking for a experience that is rich, that is real, or if you wish to remember how it is you feel, then we welcome you, with both open arms and hearts.
In reading this post, Being Cool 101, we are not asking that you accept all that is said, but that you do not reject it out of hand and that you will, at the very least do your very best to remain open to the possibility there exists some truth within it and that there also exists the possibility of discovering truths about yourself.
For when you step into my club, you step into my heart, and so, sit inside my heart of hearts, the heart of all that matters at club XS.
So my staff and I will demonstrate to you what we feel being cool is all about. If you see anything that is inconsistent with how we walk our talk then I would ask that you feed it back to us, for we are but human and in return I give you my solemn oath, that I will give you the feedback you need, to raise your awareness to the impact your behavior is having, and I will do so in the moment it is occurring as this is the only real reality that exists and equally the only point of power there is.
So my brother
Be cool
Cameron John Gordon.Aka. The Black Duck.
BEING COOL
Being Cool is being true to your own heart. When we are true to our self we live with integrity, which is being our word and doing what we said we would when we said we would do it.
When we are out of integrity, we must, at the first available opportunity, inform the other and if possible offer to participate in the clean up
If our home is where the heart is, then the foundations that support our home can be thought of as integrity. Without integrity we got shit. All true values are eternal and are those which will forever remain heartfelt. How comfortably these values sit within us will be mirrored by our committment to remain in integrity.
At Club XS being out of integrity will not preclude you from entry, for the whole world is currently living with out of integrity , what will is a lack of desire to get it back.
OUR BOUNDRIES
The boundries that we use to define acceptable behaviors at Club XS are:
Respect of self
Respect of the other
Respect of the environment we are in.
This will need to be continually demonstrated in how you walk, talk and act the entire time you are with us.
Doing so is being cool,
Your physical age and size will not restrict your eligibility, but the age you demonstrate in your behavior and how you choose to carry and present yourself will.
Upon arrival at our club ensure the following;
- be well groomed, if unshaved, thenbe neatly trimmed, dress in smart casual attire and wear closed shoes and long pants
- have impeccable manners, understand that the intention delivered in the word no or yes, is not only communicated through words but needs to be sensed as well through either body language or feelings.
Being open
When we operate from an open position we are being cool and will always simply know what to do, for our heart will tell us so. We get an immediate awareness to our impact, how cool is that.
A broken heart is the same as an open heart, it is only the perception we hold to the “Big Hurt” that creates the confusion. I share with many who come to my club a heart that has been busted, broken and smashed so many times that I often thought I would die, yet still I live, for what does not kill us, will in fact make us stronger.
The only reason any one is ever asked to leave our club is when they demonstrate they can no longer hear the impact their behavior is having.
This will be demonstrated through their ability to remain open, for hearing is feeling, when we hear someone else’s pain and mirror the feelings generated in the story as it unfolds, we demonstrate that we have empathy for them, it empowers us both and it is how we release the trapped energies within our body
So hearing can only be demonstrated when we are open, therefore it stands that if you are a single male in my club and are closed you will not make it all that far..
Examples of behavior that is closed or un cool is as follows;
• Single men who demonstrate a needy energy or any other sort of desperateness.
• Single men who develop any sort of predatory behavior or who become overly lustful in their intentions
• drunken behavior or drug abuse• men who seek reassurance from me that they are cool
• complaining in any way about the spa
• Asking if there are any larger condoms.
When you come to club XS remember it is a privilege to be given entry not your right.
ON WOMEN
i would ask that you treat our women as if they were Princesses, as Queens in the making, who must one day lead the world again, if we are to leave this path of destruction that all men, including myself have created.
Women are by nature creative, they create life, yet men do not have to be destructive, as has been our nature, that we believe “might is right” is what separates us from all things and the conditioned belief that big boys do not cry. Well I cry, I cry for the masks I see people wearing that say,” I am beautiful’ whilst under the surface I see their sorrow, hurt, anger and confusion.
All women know what it is like to be a man, but no man knows what it is like to be a women and nor will he be able to choose becoming a woman in his next life unless he is willing to let go his attachment to fear and the greed that feeds it.
Women have flown further on the arrow of evolution because they are the creators. They are everywhere in their energy as they represent space, the darkness, they are the energy that is held in a free space, a perfect vacumn, a space full of nothing and it is from nothing they create everything. ,it is women who gave us the first blessing, which became free choice and conscious awareness, as depicted when eve picked the fruit straight from the vine.
Women are like the queen on a chess board and they can move several spots at once,while the king is limited to a single move only, so men have better situational awareness as to where they have come from, or who they were, they therefore understand how they got to here or who they actually are as a result, and equally they can if they do not like the picture they see of themselves creatye a vision of who they wish to become,yet it is a vision that is shortsighted as it still goes only one step at a time. Hence the AA credo, and Neil Armstrongs “ one small step for man, one giant leap for mankind”. Note the words, kneal or my strong arm will make you, and that a giant leap, or a small step, is still only one move.
Women whose minds operate three dimensionally can out think all men, they can out process us, and are far superior human beings on every level except when it comes to situational awareness and physical strength which is why we have made them the inferior race and developed a model for communication known as fear, for it keeps women in their box, barefoot and pregnant.
that women have not helped themselves, by allowing themselves to be so caught up in the detail of so many different issues at once that they loose sight of the bigger picture, creating confusion, which in turn has men lash out, as men will fight when they get a fright, and nothing scares a man more than confusion.
yet whether you agree or disagree with the above anology can any man deny that if the world were run entirely by woman, that we would still have the chaos that exists today. Would we be facing the sure fire Armageddon that is approaching, unless we change our ways immediately and would we be facing the immanent collapse of the entire financial system world wide.
if women had ran the world in the 60's would we have put a man on the moon or would we have focused on making sure that everyone in this world of ours was fed, had a bed and felt safe.
I will not apologize for the part I have played in the mess our world is in, or for the prejudice still shown to woman world wide. What I will do is clean up everything I feel as being dirty inside my self, for when I am clean and at peace with what I feel on the inside, then the world outside of me will have to be the same in order for me to be clean all over.
As for women, I now bow to them, I acknowledge them not as superior to me but as most beautifully different to me, I acknowledge the capacity they have to be far more tolerant, to demonstrate compassion and love, to be nurturing and less at the effect of ego, to be far more sensitive, for in seeing this in all woman I now give myself the opportunity to develop this within myself.
My club is dedicated to all woman, it is a place that I have established so I can connect with woman on a grand scale and gain the insights into self till the realization comes that I am complete.
when I feel safe the people in my company are safe
When the woman of the world feel safe the world will be a safe place
THE CONTEXT TO CLUB XS
I created club xs so I could build myself a place that would welcome people who feel, who are passionate about what they feel , who care about themselves and those in their company and people who still want to party hard, who have not given up. I was about to turn 50 when I brought it and most of my mates were now old, I realized 25 years in business only got me to meet people who would tell me what I wanted to hear and most of all I was still at the effect of my greatest fear, that I was going insane as I could not get how no one else saw the world as I did.
So I built this club up to what you see today, a club that also has great history as it two former owners, Being P1 and LP’s laid down great foundations and gave me a very solid structure to add on to. How I have built this club is by pig headily doing it my way regardless to cost, council approval or other advice as I have a vision that I will only see when it is a done deal. It is far from being a done deal yet.
So foremost in acknowledging the purpose of my club is the need I have to be expressed, for that to be able occur in an environment that is largely free of judgment is critical lest I feel unsafe and so shutdown.
Secondly is my need to find others who share the same hurt, sadness and fear of madness in a world that has forgotten how to feel. For it is always through eyes of the other that we get to see ourself. When we are given permission to enter into another’s heart we are given the greatest gift another can give, it is the gift of life for this is at essence how it is we become cool, we get the impact our behavior is having in the moment it occurs by being able to mirror what the other feels through our ability to see into their souls and know what they are feeling.
So club XS is not traditionally what you would call a swingers club. It is a club that has dancing downstairs, real sexy pole dancing, while upstairs we encourage hard core romancing, yet all of this is what can be seen on the surface, what Club XS is about, is connection, with firstly our self and then with the other.
With connection comes opportunity to discover who we really are and and to express ourselves with the most powerfull demonstration of love there is, the act of making it.
So that is what CLUB XS is all about to me, come along, open up and tell me one day what it means to you.